Un Ami ou Un Amour

"Men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way." -When Harry Met Sally

CAN men and women just be friends? Lately, my experience with this situation has been a little too close to home. Let's face it. Most of my friends really ARE men, but they are also GAY. Sure! I have straight male friends as well. But now that I think about it, even when the relationship seems purely platonic, I always have the tiny thought in the back of my mind, "What if..."! A great romantic relationship is one that has a strong foundation of friendship....so it is easy for me for me to consider, if only for a moment, what my friends may be like in another "context". Crossing the boundary of friendship and love is definitely a danger zone! Ironically, the very friendship that may make your relationship so great could easily be destroyed if lines are crossed. I wouldn't consider myself a risk-taker. But, when it comes to love, I am willing to take a chance....even if it is my friend.

Have I answered my question? Well, truthfully, I think that it depends on the person. I know that I CAN and WANT to have male friends: gay and straight. Often when I need advice, it is so great to get a man's perspective. And, I hate to break it to you ladies, but men are less dramatic. (I am NOT excluding myself from the dramatic category!) I think the key is to have have ultimate faith in the friendship above all. Secondly, I leave my future to fate. I am confident that what is meant to be will be.... so if I persue something with a friend that doesn't work out, no one is to blame except for fate. So, here I am fate... ready and willing to see who will sweep me off my feet. -M

i Want That

i head off to work amidst a sea of people plugged into white earphones. i reach into my pocket and touch the click wheel on my new video iPod and scroll to find my favorite song. i realize i am fully willing to participate in the iERA.... i am the proud owner of my third iPod since their intoroduction in 2001 (and wanting to purchase my fourth) and my fourth apple laptop. iTunes has completely taken over my computer with songs, tv shows, and movies which conveniently update to my iPod with a mere cable to my computer. iWeb has fully enabled me to design a webpage through .Mac in order to keep friends and family updated on my life in Tokyo. Should I mention iPhoto, iMovie, and iDVD? I have created several wedding slideshows for friends and family that have really tempted me to purchase high quality cameras in order to get more creative with video and photo editing. Call my crazy, but call my on my new iPhone in JUNE! I cannot wait to purchase Apple's newest product to fall from their tree. The iPhone will completely replace each portable device in my gorgeous handbag and combine them into one. If i haven't convinced you to run to your nearest apple store to buy iSOMETHING, then I urge you to atleast window shop. i know you will enjoy the view. -M

The Truth Hurts, and Is Also Hard to Tell....

I feel as though I have gone through life knowing that honesty is always the best policy. This notion has been so ingrained in my head that I have become afraid of even telling the smallest white lie. But, even with my fear of lying, I am certainly capable of making it happen....with a huge guilt trip to follow.... But I often wonder why we lie? Do we lie merely to protect ourselves? Avoid confrontation? Forget embarrassing moments? To exclude others? Whatever the reason, it is amazing how transparent a lie can be! The feeling of knowing you have been lied to really hurts. Not only have you been deceived, but, you know you have been deceived on purpose. The truth is, nothing hurts more than a lie..... and I am learning that I must surround myself with people who are comfortable in telling the truth.....because without that, there is nothing.-M